Friday 16 September 2011

In Memoriam - 18 Feb, 2010

At times like this, it’s always difficult to know quite where to start. How to attempt in a short space of time to try and sum up an extraordinary life.

Well, while looking for a notebook to jot my thoughts I inadvertently knocked a box of children's chess pieces off one of our book shelves. And as the pieces flew every which way and the lid fell to the floor, the answer lay there staring me in the face. Because in the corner of the broken hinged lid my eye fell upon the spidery handwriting of a child. In clear pencil the words were quite legible. They read: A. M.Pearl, Avondale Road, Liverpool.

Dad would probably have been no more than ten years of age when he left his mark on the lid. And it’s touching that a piece of his childhood should manifest itself in our children's world of board games two generations later.

One of eight children, he was brought up in Liverpool’s poorest back streets and had no formal education to speak of. Indeed, I remember him telling me that some of his teachers were the poor wretched souls who had seen action in the trenches of the first world war and were still suffering the effects of shell shock. But despite the obvious hardships, he never spoke a bad word about his childhood and bore no grudges over the very obvious lack of opportunities that presented themselves. Indeed, his memories of childhood were always recounted with great affection. One gets a sense that any shortfalls in material possessions were more than made up for by a loving family environment. And I guess it was these formative years that helped shape those qualities that we remember him for. His modesty, generosity of spirit, selflessness and desire to help others. These were traits that certainly carried his name.

He will always remain in my memory as a remarkable husband to our dear mother – caring for her right up until he went into the home three weeks ago; an incredibly supportive father to his two sons; a loving grandpa to his four grandchildren who he adored; and a cherished friend to so many. And today as we remember him for his generosity, wisdom and good humour, I’m comforted by the thought that these qualities will undoubtedly live on. Because in no small way, he left his mark on all of us.

Alex Pearl is author of Sleeping with the Blackbirds 

Friday 2 July 2010

The story behind my story

Four years ago I was working as a copywriter at the London office of a large global advertising agency that was going through a huge international merger with one of New York’s oldest agencies. The merger of these two lumbering and ailing giants that had both seen better days was a prolonged and messy business that had the air of desperation about it. You could liken the whole exercise to the Hindenburg coming to the rescue of the Titanic.

During this time, the workflow slowed to a trickle, so that copywriters like myself invariably found themselves twiddling their thumbs, reading the papers and in some cases calling their headhunters. I, for my part, decided to at least look busy by writing a story for my kids.

Doing so in company time was admittedly a bit naughty, particularly since it also created the false impression that I was far too busy to take on any of the new and rather scarce advertising briefs that very occasionally floated through the agency’s doors. But for me, doing nothing constructive with the time would have been even worse.

This strange state of affairs continued for many months until eventually the newly merged company in its wisdom employed a new Creative Director - a diminutive, bald Irishman who bounced around the place like a small child let loose in a large toy department. His chirpiness was, however, something of a front. Within a few months he had fired his entire creative department – me included, and replaced all the coveted awards in the agency’s awards cabinet with house plants.

So I was out on my ear with a few tatty crates of personal effects and an even tattier manuscript entitled ‘Sleeping with the Blackbirds’.

Today, the book is available in paperback. And the Kindle version is now available to download at: http://www.amazon.co.uk/Sleeping-Blackbirds-Alex-Pearl-ebook/dp/B00FK14Y74/ref=sr_1_1_bnp_1_kin?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1387469906&sr=1-1&keywords=sleeping+with+the+blackbirds

Sleeping with the Blackbirds 


Thursday 19 March 2009

Bored by Sundays? Then spend them in a graveyard.

This was the headline I penned way back in the '90s for an advertisement that appeared in Time Out magazine advertising the unusual services of a good friend who is simultaneously by far the most brilliant and barmy person I've ever known. At the time this friend, who will remain nameless, was a psychiatrist by day, college lecturer by night and tour guide at the weekend. The tour company he operated was unusual in that it specialized in sites of psychic interest. Needless to say, the advert succeeded in attracting a weird and wonderful clientele.

The trips themselves, which I sampled myself were pretty colourful affairs. On one occasion, the fairly ropy old minibus in which a dozen paying customers found themselves sitting, developed a flat tyre on the M25. While most tour guides might have been perturbed by such a potentially disastrous mishap, my friend relished the opportunity to regale his captive audience with a tirade of anecdotes, fascinating insights and some of the funniest jokes you could ever wish to hear.

It later transpired that 90% of these delightful passengers were in fact my friend' s psychiatric patients.

This Sunday my friend's wife is arranging a fairly swanky surprise 50th birthday party for her extraordinary husband. To my knowledge, no minibuses have been lined up.

Family Reflections

It was purchased before the war by a balding, stocky man with a warm smile and a booming, resonant voice. His name was Bertram Davis – though his original Russian surname was the more exotic Bolzwinick. He was the grandfather I never knew. By all accounts, he was the life and soul of the party; a witty chap with a story to tell and a joke to crack. Until, that is, life was cruelly cut short by asthma at the tender age of 54.

I was born into this world five years after his departure. According to my grandmother, Bert would spend many happy hours pottering in dusty antique shops in the Mile End Road, and was in the habit of buying things on a whim.

As a young child I remember setting eyes on my grandfather’s purchase and being drawn by its mesmerizing contents and the way it magnified and distorted itself. This shiny, glassy orb with its intricate geometry of bright lapis lazuli, pink and white sunk deep into a sea of solid glass, never ceased to fascinate my young eyes. How did the coloured glass get inside the see-though glass? And how could this iridescent globule of sheer beauty have no more meaningful a role in life than a mere paperweight?

For many years it was the family tradition for all my uncles and aunts and cousins on my mother’s side of the family to descend in droves on my grandmother’s house every Saturday afternoon for tea. It was invariably a jovial affair with lively children, lively conversation, a real fire sizzling and crackling in the grate and, of course, my grandmother’s famous apple and blackberry pie with its delicate coat of latticed pastry.

My grandmother was a fiercely independent woman with a heart of gold and a particularly soft spot for her short-sighted grandson. So when she passed away quite suddenly and unexpectedly when I was 14, Saturday afternoons never quite felt the same again.

I can recollect helping my father clear her large Victorian house and standing on the threshold of the sitting room where the fire once danced and laughter once filled the air. All that was left was a bare room with bare floor boards. A room stripped of its personality; stripped of life itself.

Some weeks later the paperweight that had sat for so many years on my grandmother’s sideboard, now found a new home on my bedroom desk. Sometimes I look into it and try and make out fleeting reflections of those joyful childhood memories.

Today, 35 years on my mother, now showing the early signs of dementia, lets slip the darkest of family secrets. Her father with whom she was incredibly close did not die from asthma. This jovial man who still laughs and smiles to this day from those black and white snap shots from yesteryear, actually took his own life – following a serious bout of depression.

It explains a lot. It explains why my grandmother’s top floor was always occupied by lodgers – since life assurance policies are never honoured in the event of suicide.

More significantly, it also explains our family tradition and why every Saturday afternoon all her grandchildren would descend and fill her house with laughter.

If you are affected by this article and would like to speak to mental health experts for support and guidance, please contact www.betterhelp.com/advice/ for free advice.

Alex Pearl is author of Sleeping with the Blackbirds and The Chair Man

Going forward sometime soon

Why oh why are we plagued by such meaningless terms? And are more being inflicted on us today than ever before? It certainly feels that way. Perhaps I'm just being pedantic and overly sensitive. But no, I don't think so.

We seem to have this desperate need to create superfluous words in an attempt to make ourselves sound more serious, more mature, more corporate. But the stark reality is that we all sound a great deal more stupid as a result.

I remember an old English teacher bemoaning the use of the term, 'at this moment in time'. Why, he asked couldn't we suffice with the one word 'now'?